I wrote “Sing it Soft” for my mom, right before she lost an ongoing battle with pancreatic cancer in July of 2010. After a four year struggle of our own to finish our second album – which included a third of it being erased by a click-happy studio intern – The Dead Girls had finally released Out of Earshot the previous April. Never in my life have I experienced such highs and lows…and it all happened in a span of four months.
A few months before my mom passed, I moved back to Manhattan to be closer to my family. I had already decided I was going to try to write as many songs as possible, one for each room in my cavernous family home. I ended up with around ten, but “Sing it Soft” felt special because it took hardly any effort to complete – and when I say complete, I mean that when I first played it with its final lyrics and arrangement and everything, I knew it was done. It didn’t need anything else. It’s not very often when you know right off the bat that you’ve just literally completed the song, with all it s essential components, in less than 20 minutes.
Written in my first bedroom, “Sing it Soft” was born of memories of my mother singing me to sleep as a child, as well as recollections of bits of songs that either she used to sing to me or we both loved together in later life. There are references to The Beatles and the Bee Gees, the two groups for which we shared the strongest affinity. But the song is really about figuring out how to keep someone alive in your mind and to the rest of the world when they leave your life forever. I think one of the most natural ways humans do this is by singing to their children the songs that were sung to them in their childhood. In my case, I believe it made a rock solid foundation for my love and passion for music, and I could never thank my mom enough for giving me that, as so many people struggle every day to find what they really love. Aside from always supporting me in my crazy or risky musical endeavors, she was always my biggest fan, and every song I write is for her.
Though this is a side not often seen of The Dead Girls, I wanted everyone to have this song because I have friends that are parents, or some friends that are newly married and probably having kids soon. Singing to your children is one of the most natural ways to connect with them, to tell them you love them. That is the purpose of “Sing it Soft”.